Father’s Day musing — hearing loss & back pain

My dad was “hard of hearing” for about as long as I can remember. Obviously, I could deduce that it was a result of being around loud noise, but I wasn’t ever exactly sure of the diagnosis.

In this medical record it says, “History of noise exposure includes heavy artillery beginning in 1948 and being a loader on 90 mm. guns up until 1953.” This is what one of those “guns” looks like:

And here’s the medical record:


Also for as long as I can remember, my dad had — sometimes debilitating — back pain. Not that there’s anything funny about back pain, but I had to laugh when I saw this note about prescribing PT for him, because 3 times a week I do 8 exercises to strengthen my core and my back, and those 2 exercises are part of my routine!

Father’s Day musing — a well-decorated Marine

My dad’s uniform hosted a lot of ribbons and some medals. This is a picture in the latter part of his career, when he was a Sergeant Major.

Looking through the many military records of his, before recycling them, here is a list of the “decorations, medals, badges, commendations, citation, and campaign ribbons” awarded to him:

Pistol Expert Marksmanship Badge Rifle Sharpshooters Badge
Korean Service Medal Korean Presidential Unit Citation
Vietnam Campaign Medal Vietnam Service Medal
Republic of Vietnam Armed Forces Honor Medal, 1st Class Republic of Vietnam Campaign Medal
Vietnam Cross of Gallantry w/Palm Combat Action Ribbon
Presidential Unit Citation Navy Unit Commendation
United Nations Service Medal National Defense Service Medal
Commendation Medal Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal
Good Conduct Service Medal (at least 10 of these) Purple Heart

The Purple Heart is the most distinguished award he earned, and I always thought it was a result of punji sticks, a type of booby-trapped stake, that went into his shin. However, this account that I came across in his medical records paints a different picture:

22 AUG 69. C Company, 1st Battalion, 4th Marine Division. While serving on active duty with C Co. of above named unit at approximately 19:15 hours on 10 AUG 69, 1st Sgt. Martin received fragment wounds to the right leg resulting from an enemy rocket, while in a defensive position. He was treated at 1/4 [illegible acronym] and returned to duty. Condition and prognosis are good. He will receive his first Purple Heart Award.

Receiving said Purple Heart:

Father’s Day musing — dad’s first job

Recently, I went through several file cabinet folders of paperwork related to my dad, who died 10 years ago this September 11th. The majority of the paperwork comprised health records and records of his military service in the U.S. Marine Corps, and I learned a few things about him in the process.

I knew he entered the military very young, as the family story goes that my grandmother had to sign for him to join because he wasn’t yet 18.

I also knew that he’d never graduated high school, because he earned his USAFI High School GED in 1959, and this document confirms that, where it shows his “non-service education” at the time as 8 years grammar school and 1 year of high school.

The thing I didn’t know about him was where he worked before enlisting in the Marines. This document lists Berkshire Fine Spinning Associates in Fall River, MA as his employer, and the “occupation” field says he was a “spare boy!”

I’d heard of neither that company nor that job position before. Thank the &deity for the internet.

According to Wikipedia: Berkshire Fine Spinning Associates (/ˈbɜːrkʃər/) was an American textile company. In 1955, the company merged with Hathaway Manufacturing Company to form Berkshire Hathaway. Wait! What??? My father worked for the precursor to Berkshire Hathaway, Warren Buffet‘s company??? 😂

The mill my dad worked in in Fall River was King Philip Mills, an historic cotton mill complex, which was acquired by Berkshire Fine Spinning Associates in 1930.

When I first saw “spare boy,” my thoughts immediately went to bowling, perhaps because as young girl my mother worked as a “pin boy” resetting pins at the bowling alley for, as the family lore goes, “a nickel an hour.”

But alas, in mill work, a “spare boy” was a young male worker who assisted with the operation of machinery in a textile mill, particularly during the early 20th century. They were responsible for ensuring the smooth functioning of the production process in the factory.

For instance, Andrew Stefanik worked as a spare boy in a textile mill in Chicopee, Massachusetts. His tasks likely involved supporting tasks like replacing bobbins and other general duties. This was a common role for young workers, especially “bobbin boys,” who often worked as spare boys.

The term “spare” suggests that they might not have had a specific machine assigned to them but were available to assist wherever needed, filling in for absent workers or helping with tasks that required additional hands. Historically, this could also be referred to as a “spare hand”.

Here’s a picture of a “bobbin boy” working in the mills, one of the jobs my dad presumably did as a spare boy.

Andrew Stefanik, a bobbin boy, works as spare boy, November 1911. Photographer: Hine, Lewis. Original public domain image from Flickr

Location, location, location…

My sister texted me: “Are you familiar with INRI above the cross/crucifix in most Catholic churches?”

Image of Jesus on the cross with the INRI inscription on it
Image from the New World Encyclopedia

I said I was, but that I didn’t know, or can’t remember as I’ve probably looked it up before, what it means.

Then I shared what I’d found as to its meaning, to which she replied:

Yes, but what makes me laugh is Pépère [our maternal grandfather, who lived in Pawtucket, RI] used to say it stood for “In RI” [“in Rhode Island”].

This is not only hilarious to me, it’s a family story I’d never heard.

Three 50-word stories about our recent trip to Scottsdale.

The Michaelses The birthday boy The Thompsons & Stoimenoffs
We had dinner with our friends Sherry and Fred at Baby Kay’s Cajun Kitchen in Mesa, AZ. John and Sherry met on an ambassadorial trip in October of 2008 to Beijing, Guilin, and Shanghai. We don’t see each other #IRL often, but like this time, it’s always a great visit. My husband’s brother, Tommy, celebrated his 75th birthday, and we flew in to attend a surprise party for him. His brother Jimmy and his wife Cindy hosted the gala, and I met a nephew for the first time who also flew in for the occasion. Bob made the birthday cake. We met grade-school friends of my husband for lunch one day. I was Facebook friends with one of them, so it was great to meet her in person. Bob and I enjoyed a bruschetta board, which was fantastic — second only to the company we enjoyed dining al fresco at Postino’s.

Our menus for 3/16/25 – 3/22/25

Whew! That was a big party-food-eating week!

Day Meal
03/16/25
Sunday
(Nicholas Blanchard’s St. Patrick’s Day party, 3 p.m.)
•  Party food
03/17/25
Monday
(Pelagic Run Club cheering front-porch happy hour)
•  Layered taco dip (⅓ corn, ⅔ beans) & chips
•  Veggie tray
•  Cream cheese cookies
03/18/25
Tuesday
•  Pork & vegetable stir-fry
•  Cabbage
03/19/25
Wednesday
(Leigh & Jaleh happy hour)
•  Layered taco dip (⅓ corn, ⅔ beans) & chips
•  Veggie tray
•  Cream cheese cookies
03/20/25
Thursday
(Baby Kay‘s w/ Sherry & Fred in Mesa, AZ)
•  John: Catfish & shrimp basket w/fries
•  Bob: Catfish dinner w/potato salad
•  Shared: Green-olive slaw
03/21/25
Friday
(Take-out from Scottsdale Carlos O’Brien‘s @ Cindy & Jimmy’s)
•  John: Favorite Fajita Quesadilla
•  Bob: Chicken Taco & Chicken Enchilada (“the #4”)
03/22/25
Saturday
(Tommy’s 75th surprise birthday party @ Cindy & Jimmy’s in Scottsdale)
•  Catered sandwich platters (roast beef, turkey, & ham on white bread and tuna on croissants)
•  Cindy-made salads: one curried sweet potatoes & other veggies, one broccoli & other veggies)
•  Bob’s Best. Ever. Banana. Cake. (among other desserts like brownies & lemon bars)