A transgender podcast, cheap coffee, memorial service travel arrangements, and writing an article…

I listened to a fascinating podcast on the bus on the way in today: Two Families Grapple with Sons’ Gender Preferences. Each family is dealing with the situation in totally opposite ways. Each is working with a professional, each of which has a totally different philosophy about the issue.

Dr. Diane Ehrensaf… Dr. Ken Zucker…
“If we allow people to unfold and give them the freedom to be who they really are, we engender health. And if we try and constrict it, or bend the twig, we engender poor mental health.” “Suppose you were a clinician and a 4-year-old black kid came into your office and said he wanted to be white. Would you go with that? … I don’t think we would.”

The mother and father of the boy being treated by Dr. Ehrensaf now use “she” to refer to their son Jonah, and mom had this to say about that fateful day when they finally allowed Jonah to buy a dress:

“I thought she was gonna hyperventilate and faint because she was so incredibly happy. … Before then, or since then, I don’t think I have seen her so out of her mind happy as that drive to Target that day to pick out her dress.”

It’s a 22-minute podcast, which you can listen to (or read the transcript) here.


Remembering that the coffee in the NCSU library coffee shop was $1.35, as opposed to the $1.60 and $1.70 in the coffee shops on Hillsborough Street, I walked that way this morning after getting off the bus. In order to get to the library entrance where that coffee shop is, you have to pass the student food court area just off the Brickyard. I said to myself, “I wonder if the coffee is the same price in here. If it is, it’s a little bit closer, and will save me some time.”

Ducking in, and helping myself to what I would call a medium size cup of coffee, as opposed to the small I usually get at the other places, imagine the smile on my face when the cashier said, “That’ll be $.85, please.”

Not being a coffee connoisseur, and being the financially savvy guy that I am (sounds so much better than cheap, or even frugal), you know I’m going to be all over a “50% off” deal on coffee whenever I want some.


I spoke with my manager this morning about taking off Monday, October 13th, to attend my uncle’s memorial service in Rhode Island. She assured me that we could work something out—first with potentially taking work to do remotely with me, but later remembering that I could use sick leave for this purpose.

I used my U.S. Airways frequent flyer points to get a $400 ticket for $35 instead. It was supposed to be $50 more due to booking inside of 14 days, but the website hung up while I was making the reservations, and by the time it was all said and done with a representative on the phone, that $50 charge was either missed or waived. Either way, I’m not complaining.


I had lunch at Mitch’s Tavern with a co-worker, Garrison from “the admin team,” my boss, and my boss’s boss. We talked about the potential use of social networking applications, specifically Twitter, in our work.

I had their Super Garden Melt, which consisted of sautéed eggplant, tomatoes, zucchini squash, onions, melted provolone, and served in a large roll. It was most delicious, and came with a side order of potato salad, which was also quite good.


My afternoon was consumed with two “customer” meetings, in which we talked about information architecture with the liaisons of two groups who are going to move their Web content into a new content management system into which our overall organization is migrating.

Late in the day, I got into a services brochure that I’m working on for a booth at the upcoming OIT Expo ’08.

I caught the 7:15 bus home.


At home, I made a run for a number of greeting cards, including three sympathy cards, one birthday card, and one anniversary card.

I also stopped at the Hardee’s nearby to use a “buy an order of our bacon cheese fries, and get a soft drink free” coupon, for which I was promptly told, “We don’t even sell bacon cheese fries any more.”


Back at home, I wrote an article about my upcoming China trip for the October newsletter edition of the NCSU student chapter of the Society for Technical Communication.

A memorial service date, updated “scripts” plan, workout, dinner out, and some pool…

We were up around nine this morning, and I made Cheddar omelets; sliced, fried turkey ham, and toast for breakfast, accompanied by coffee, of course.

Robert was an absolute dear washing a tie for me that I might be able to use on my trip to China. Thanks, my sweet!


At about 1:00, I finally turned on my cell phone to find a voice mail message from my aunt. Unfortunately my uncle’s wish to donate his body to the Anatomical Gift Program at Brown University was not able to be honored due to that open wound in his chest that never healed.

To that end, she is going to have a memorial service on Monday, October 13th, in Rhode Island. This presents a challenge for me in terms of time off from work, but I’m going to talk about it with my manager tomorrow. I really want to be there.


I logged into merckmedco.com to see what the implications were to my switch from IBM to the State, both of which use Medco for their prescription plans. After a very frustrating 20 minutes or so trying to figure out the difference between a member number, a subscription number, a group ID, and a bin ID, I called their toll-free support number, which I was surprised to find staffed on a Sunday afternoon.

A very seasoned support person took care of everything I needed, and before we hung up I said, “I want you to know that I very much appreciate that you were able to do everything I needed done without transferring me to a bunch of people, and I thank you for calming me down.”

She seemed delighted to hear it.


I got back to the gym today, where I accomplished the following:

 Exercise Category

 Exercise Type

 Duration

 Comments

Resistance

Lower Body

40 minutes

 

Strengthening

Ab Crunches

15 minutes

300: 10 sets of 30 reps

Cardio

Elliptical

20 minutes

Hills setting, Level 4, 372 calories burned


Joe and I met at Hibernian at around 5:30, where we had envisioned enjoying a Bloody Mary at one of the tables out front on the sidewalk. Well, evidently, everyone else had dining alfresco on their mind, too, in this beautiful weather.

Instead of waiting, we walked directly across the street to Stool Pigeons to enjoy “Half Price Sunday” (all food on their menu is half-price), and drink their Bloody Mary’s.

However, before seating ourselves, I just checked with the wait staff to see if they were still doing HPS, and as it turned out, they weren’t!

We walked down Glenwood to 518 West instead, and had their Bloody Marys (aren’t we flexible?), and got two “pizzettes”—the “Quatro Formaggi” and the “Italian” without the onions or green peppers.

Our waiter was dropdead gorgeous, and at one point, while Joe was using the restroom, he came to our table with some bread, and I said, “You are a very handsome man.” He smiled, and said, “Thank you very much. I appreciate that.”

After dinner, we stopped across the street at Turkish Delights, where we each had a cup of coffee and split a “Flaky Pistachio and Almond Baklava.” Yum!


We intended to spend just a couple of hours at Flex, which we actually stuck to tonight. We played just a couple of games of free pool, but quit after two, as the table is so unlevel, that all the balls end up along the one rail by about halfway through the game.

We left just before “Drag Queen Karaoke” started. Yay!

A 73% off kind of shopping spree, dinner@Two Guys, and some lame dancing…

I thought about riding out to the outlet mall in Smithfield today, but decided to hit Kohl’s at Crossroads to see if I could get what I wanted there first, which would also help keep my gas usage down. I’m still above a half tank, and it’s coming up on two weeks, tomorrow, since I’ve filled up.

I only clothes shop a few times a year, and this is probably about the third time that I’ve been to Kohl’s. I love that store. Of course they were having sales, otherwise I wouldn’t be shopping now would I? With that said, it seems there’s always some kind of sale going on there.

 Item
Regular Price 
Sale Price 
 Apt. 9 Dress Shirt $40.00  $12.00
 Chaps Dress Shirt $42.50  $8.50 
 Chaps Dress Shirt $42.50  $8.50 
 Sonoma Dress Shirt $36.00  $3.80 
 Men’s Shorts $28.00  $8.40 
 Dress Shoes $70.00  $39.99 
 Watch $50.00  $35.00 
 Total $309.00 $116.19 


And if those aren’t just about thrift store prices to begin with, I opened a Kohl’s credit card (which I will promptly pay off when the bill for this purchase arrives, and after it sitting in a drawer for a year, I’ll cancel it), and that took another 15% off everything, and then they gave me this scratch card, on which I “won” another 15% discount.

So, in the end, I saved $227.67 on $309 worth of clothes for a grand total of 73% off. My final total, with tax, was $86.82. That’s my kind of shopping.


After that little frenzy, I stopped at Panera Breads, where I had a cinnamon bagel with some lite honey walnut cream cheese (freakin’ delicious!), and a cup of coffee. And, of course, I used their free wi-fi while I was there.


Robert arrived around five, and we went to Two Guys for dinner. I was all set to order their vegetable lasagna, as I was quite sure that that’s where it was catered from for our work picnic a couple of weeks ago. However, the waitress acted like I was speaking Chinese (I wish!) when I asked where it was on their menu.

With no luck I settled on my standard there—their pepperoni stromboli, which comes with a salad. Robert had their mushroom burger, which came with fries. It was all good.


Dancing was kind of lame tonight. We had very few dancers: me, Robert, Ernie, and Rick. And Chris joined us on the few dances that he knows.

It was “blackout night” there tonight, and when we stopped dancing, the lights went (mostly) out, and the glow sticks took over. We stayed for just a little while, during which I mostly spoke to Patrick, whose birthday is Monday, one week before mine. We bought each other a birthday drink.


At home, <TMI>incredible sex ensued</TMI> before eventually reading the backs of our eyelids.